Are you eager to achieve bigger and better things in life? In this case, you are definitely not alone. Achieving personal success is something many people aspire to, but few actually achieve. why this? We chase the image of success and aspire to be what we see around us. We reject ourselves in favor of being someone else. There is another way.
Here are five steps to get you started.
Define success for yourself
Comparing yourself to others is poison. Trying to become something he wasn't meant to be is a trap, no matter how much money or popularity it takes. There's nothing quite like the confidence of knowing you're on a path that matches who you are. Many people are confused about this - who am I? Not who I want to be, but who am I now?
Defining success on your own terms means getting to the heart of your credibility. Being authentic starts with a clear understanding of who you are and who you are not. Many people pursue dreams that are embedded in the cultural narratives around them or that are considered acceptable by their social circles. It's the fastest way to a false life. Instead, you need to see the best version of yourself.
Start by identifying your natural talents and what you enjoy doing the most. What makes your heart sing and gives you energy and inspiration? It's a sad comment that most people don't reach their full potential in life. Are you living below your potential for success? Are you distracted by filling your days and weeks with aimless activities?
The mass of men live a life of quiet desperation. The so-called resignation of despair is confirmed.
Unconscious stereotyped despair is hidden even under so-called human amusement games. There is no game in them, because that comes after work. But it is a mark of wisdom not to do desperate things." ~ Henry David Thoreau, Civil Disobedience
Avoid comparing your success with the success of others
One of the distractions people face in today's culture is strongly rooted in comparison. We compare ourselves to people we consider to have a better life. This perception can be a smokescreen when fueled by images on social media – almost everyone seems to be living a better life. Reinforced by the culture of the cult of the glamorous image. The recent story of Theranos Elizabeth Holmes Foundation's meteoric rise to stardom is an example.
But if we dare to look deeper, we will see that all is not what it seems. For every media departure given to us, there are hundreds more quietly living fulfilling but not flashy lives. When we compare ourselves to what the media feed us, we find ourselves distracted by following the paths that lead to the traps. The trap of success is very real and many people have fallen into it.
You are unique, so your life should be unique. While others may inspire you with their story, you must create your own. And your version of success may look very different from what you see someone else achieve. Again, it's up to you to figure out where your motivation and inspiration come from and act on it.
Decide what you want and why you want it
Creating the life you want starts with defining what you want and why you want it. Unfortunately, most people in a culture steeped in capitalism think this way,
If I had enough money, I would be happy.
However, we see example after example of people who have money but have neither peace nor happiness. Rich people get depressed, have bad relationships, become drug addicts, and commit suicide. Having money does not create immunity to the myriad of problems in life. In fact, having money will magnify the problems you had before you even had the money.
Because the love of money is the root of all evil.
Connecting to what you want and why you want it can reveal your dysfunctional thinking. Whatever you think you want, ask yourself "Why would I want this?" He kept asking why at least three times. This will help you figure out why you think you want a certain thing. And if you reveal your desire so that you can receive validation from others, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Know that no one can determine your success, but you
The only person who can determine success for you is you. The only valid reason to pursue anything in your life is to create a positive impact on the world around you. A life well-lived leaves an indelible mark on the world.
I recently attended the funeral of a neighborhood mother who died at the age of 97. During the service, one person after another talked about how it had affected their lives - and the next topic was: The world was a better place because he's been there. The recurring phrase that appeared in every speech was, "She lived her life on her own terms."
It's a big statement. "On her own terms" meant that she didn't allow anyone to define for her what her life should be like. By living such a life, she was able to give so much to the people around her.
Living a fake life is stressful. Imposter Syndrome is real and may indicate that you have been chasing the wrong dream. When you flow with the power of your genius and with a deep understanding of your purpose, you will have no equal and need not compare. Success depends more on authentic living than on what you have. It's your life and at the end of the day, it will be what you decide to do.
Be patient, be kind, and enjoy the process of reaching your goals!
This does not mean that the goals you set for yourself will be easy. In fact, another path to a miserable life is to live the easy way. You have to challenge yourself and stretch yourself to reach your full potential. It requires a generous amount of self-grace, patience, and kindness to yourself.
The process of achieving your goals comes with setbacks, failures, and disappointments. No one is immune to these things - not even people who want to live wisely. So you should think about it for a long time and understand that this process is part of the journey.
Being kind to yourself means taking the time to take care of yourself along the way. Work hard, play hard, but rest. Never speak critically to yourself out loud or to yourself. Forgive yourself when you don't meet your expectations. And don't forget to nourish your soul and body in a healthy way. Live with confidence that everything will happen at the right time and stay focused. Believe that you will achieve your goals.
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